WHILE VISIONS OF SUGARPLUMS

Sending Holiday Greetings from The Bigfoot Club, and wishes that 2015 will bring happiness and well-being, love, joy and fulfillment to all.

Baby Banner

Baby Banner

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GPS: THE ULTIMATE REVENGE AND THE SPORT OF ADVENTURE

Written 5/11/2010

Packing and leaving the National always takes more time with less enthusiasm than packing and arriving.  That’s a given.

Greg and I left on Sunday morning.  Well, it was 4 minutes until noon by Eastern time.  The dogs were very happy, almost sparkling with enthusiasm, probably in part due to the cold weather that arrived on Friday.  It had been a very good week, even though we were spectators only for this trip.  I was coming home with a fair amount of Newf goodies & gifts.  (And an awesome copy of the Puppy & Panda print by Claire Carr!!!)  All we had to do was get everything back into its former storage areas and we were off.

Coffee drinkers, make a note:  There is a Starbuck’s in Birch Run.  There is a good coffee shop in Frankenmuth too.

The roads were good leaving Michigan, and this time, we skirted Lake Michigan and turned south on 57 through Illinois.  Suddenly, the roads were disastrous!  Along for the ride was Terk, a purple gorilla with a banana and a New Yorker attitude.  (We were supposed to meet Mary, who gifted us with this outspoken toy containig  motion sensor,  but she had to leave before we caught up with her.)  Terk was in the front of the van between the driver and passenger seats, along with some travel items and the dogs were in the back, sleeping peacefully.  The potholes were more like small meteor craters, and the dogs slept through those.  Terk, however, began to say whatever was on his mind every time we hit a bump (or, black hole):  “Hellooo!!”  “Ow!”  “Hey!”  “Yo, what’s up!?”  “Whoo-whoo-whoo!!”  “Hey, kid!  Remember me?”  “Come on!”

The drive through Illinois was L-O-N-G, about 350 miles of it.  We needed to make a detour into the Bootheel, which requires finding a bridge over the Mississippi.  The Mississippi isn’t like other creeks, where the county builds a bridge for every road.  There was a ferry at Tiptonville at one time, but otherwise, there are specific points of access.  Greg had wanted to get a GPS, but I have been a hold-out.  I don’t want to have to listen to a computer telling me which direction to turn and when, or whether I missed my exit.  I don’t want to lose my confidence in navigating with a map.  Maps work fine as long as there are road signs (well, that leaves out Boston and other part of Massachusetts, as well as Oklahoma).  I do like Microsoft Streets & Trips for planning travel, and it has pretty much the same information as a GPS has.  That is, if it’s wrong, why would you expect a GPS to be any better?  (And I have run into at least one error.)

Microsoft Streets and Trips had established our route by crossing from 57 to Cape Girardeau through some small backroads.  If you’ve ever been between the Mississippi levees and the river, you know what I mean by “backroads.”  At 8 p.m., it was too dark to read road signs, too.  We took our first exit according to the projected route and tried to find Cypress Street.  After driving a little further than the map indicated, we tried to find a place to turn around with a one-ton van and a 25’ (28’ of) trailer.  The best possibility in that vicinity was a drive that was almost wide enough leading into a machine shop that was closed.  After a good 20 minutes, we were turned around and back on our path.  After passing Cross St. a second time, I realized that Cypress was the road that we were on, not the road that we were looking for.  We continued carefully, with about 6 more road turns ahead, and as we took a long narrow blacktop road into the darkness and crossed a low-water bridge, a car coming toward us slowed to a stop.  Misgivings about stopping in this deserted darkness surged in my thoughts.  The guy rolled his window down and said, “I’m lost.  My GPS says that I need to go down this road.  Do you guys know where 57 is?”  I smiled all the rest of the night.  Well, he felt lost, but his GPS did have him on the right road, even though it looked very doubtful.

The rest of the trip home was pleasant, and we found a new BBQ restaurant just across Current River called The Stray Dog.  Perfect!  Really cute dog stuff inside too, mostly Lab.  In the ladies restroom, there was a print of a naked little boy, clothes piled on the bank, sitting on a board over a lake with his black Lab sitting close beside him, the two of them looking over the lake after a skinny dip.  Lunch was very good, but if you stop there, be sure to tell them that the lady who spilled her tea told you to go there.

Dogs were just as excited to be home as they were to be in Michigan.  Critical things were unpacked, dogs fed & humans went to bed.

Lovely trip, lovely Newfs, lovely to see so many once-a-year Newf friends!

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THE PAIN OF LOSS

When we grow close to others, there is always the risk – one of us will be the first to go.  It doesn’t matter what the usual lifespan is, it can occur to either of us.  We are all moving through life at different rates in different locations and different points in time.  So, loss is inevitable, and the pain of loss is the risk you accept.

There are many things that can compound the pain of loss, including the sudden nature of a loss, feelings of guilt for not having done something sooner or better that may have helped (including euthanasia) or the feeling of inadequacy, after having done everything within your power and beyond.  Another factor can be the pain that children or other animals are experiencing from this same loss.  And yet another thing that can compound this pain when the loss is a companion animal is lack of understanding or empathy from others, even unintentionally.  Someone wanting to appease your pain may say, “Well, he’s in a better place now.”  Or perhaps, “Now he is running free again.”  What sounds like a platitude may not be lack of empathy, but a sincere attempt by someone who cares for you to help you feel better.  And sometimes, when it is the loss of a “pet”, it is simply a difference in attitudes toward “inter-species companions”.  Sometimes the very people who have experienced this type of loss are the ones who do not seem to understand.  So, under the burden of the pain of loss, you must also be understanding to others.  Loss takes time for adjustment.  The immediate experience and the coming days, or even months, will require grappling with the “new normal”, with the gradual awareness that what was once familiar is now slipping from memory.  For me, this is another stress of loss:  the fear of losing that memory.  So, I keep “memory items” to help refresh my memory when I want to reflect.  One thing is clear:  the closer you grow to your companion, the greater the pain of loss, at any age, under any circumstances, and the experience of loss is very personal.

Humans and animals are not the only ones to develop “interspecies friendships”.  There are some charming Youtube videos on other interspecies friendships, such as this one:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-2CFUs5-arA

These videos are primarily with young animals.  Perhaps as we age, perhaps we lose, or allow ourselves to lose, capacity for trust or love, and the reason for Matthew 19:14:  “But Jesus said, Suffer little children, and forbid them not, to come unto me: for of such is the kingdom of heaven.”

Love enriches our experience on Planet Earth.  So, it’s a risk that we take.

Jade and Sylvia

Jade and Sylvia

Jade and Sylvia

Jade and Sylvia

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‘TIS THE PRE-SEASON

For years I’ve been less than pleased with the efforts of those competing for Christmas sales.  Often the Christmas decorations are out before Halloween.  However, as is sometimes the case, I’ve learned something from another Newf.  She begins celebrating the holiday season, experiencing a seasonal joy, at around the same time – the advent of pre-winter chill.  I don’t think she sees the television ads, since the cable was accidentally turned off in June (permanently) at the house when I had it added to the cabin, and we just started watching television in the cabin a week or two ago.  And she doesn’t go shopping with me, since Walmart and the grocery stores don’t allow dogs to shop.  So, that slow dawn of awakening has once again caught up with me:  there is something about the weather change and the coming of the holidays that is inspiring.  There probably ARE people who like to do seasonal shopping beginning in October.

Jade likes to open packages.  Parker taught her about this, and now opening boxes is her delight, if not her passion.  I’ve noticed an escalation in her interest in the past few weeks.  Everything in box form catches her interest, even if it is one intended for recycling, or a box sitting on a table, instead of a new package.  Finally!, a package arrived by “Santa” (UPS).  It didn’t look much like the kind of boxes that have fun inside, but to an especially eager Newf, it still held promise.  So, she helped me open the box for the new ex pen.  ; )  Another package had come earlier, but it had fragile contents, so I had to substitute an empty box.

Every day she is happy and enthusiastic.  She is eager to play, follows Greg around outside in a gait, and looks to other farm inhabitants for someone who shares her enthusiasm.  Banner would gladly take her on, but then things turn ballistic!

I don’t like being rushed into the holiday season when it comes to shopping, but, as in Peter Pan, I hope I’m not so much an Adult that I miss some of the opportunity for the joy in the coming of the season.  Anticipation is part of the fun in any event!

It is terribly painful to see a joy-filled Newf be disappointed, so this weekend I’ll do some shopping and wrap some presents for her to open with “good stuff” inside, and let her teach Banner about this particular joy of the season.  Banner isn’t yet aware that this is a recurring celebration.  But today, we will celebrate Thanksgiving.  We will enjoy Thanksgiving dinner, a day when everyone gets to have full tummies and good food.  And we will enjoy each other’s company, and I’ll be Thankful, again, for the love and joy in the company of these beautiful, warm, heart-filled creatures.

Wishing everyone a wonderful Thanksgiving!

 

Video of a favorite present from when Jade was one year old:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0nSoy37a7Po

 

Update 12/3/14:

I ordered some extra pieces to a new stoneware set, which arrived without notice in three boxes – that is, without notice except to Jade, who was delighted that “Santa” had been here.  She helped with opening one of the boxes.  Fortunately the packing was very good!

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