Who’s Leading Whom?

Written 6/23/10

Parker has always been one of those Newfs who likes to carry things.  It gives him delight, and he shows his pride through his expression and his posture.  He’s been in a very good mood yesterday and today, and as you know, when a Newf shares their joy, it brightens everything.

Monday night was less than joyous, though.  Greg went out of town, and since he hadn’t been traveling as much for a while, Parker seemed to have lost touch with his ability to recognize the signs, like packing a suitcase.  He is usually very tuned into this, and is aware long before one of us begins packing that something is going on.  Maybe the problem was that the dogs have been traveling with us for the past few months when suitcases are packed, so his alarm level was low.  In any case, it caught him off-guard.  Monday night was not good for sleeping.  At the point that we went to bed, Parker was aware that something was wrong.  Not all of the “pack” was where they were supposed to be.  He laid with his head pointed toward the doorway, doing the whimper-cry-worry distress sounds that connect deep within me like a cattle prod.  This meant that Jade didn’t get comfortable either, or Corky (Boston Terrorizer).  Shortly after this, Corky heard a monster outside and went into full alarm mode.  (The sprinkler was on.)  Jade and Parker joined in for this one.  It was a long night.

The next morning, we went to Work, and things gradually began to feel more normal.  Greg called during the day, so maybe he didn’t “run away” after all.  By evening, with a good afternoon snooze for the Newfs, all were happy again.

This morning, we went to Work again, walking along the road to the office, me with two Newfs beside me.  It was nice enough that I thought we would use the opportunity for a little exercise by walking down the road and back, passing the drive to the office.  Suddenly, it felt like I had hit the end of the leash.  <g>  Jade was beside me, but where was Parker?  I turned around to see what was wrong, and saw that Parker had taken the leash in his mouth, not with the usual joy of enthusiasm for doing something together, but to stop me, and it did stop me in my tracks.  I don’t know whether he thought we missed our turn, or if he thought the pavement was too hot for a walk, but clearly he wanted to go to the office, not further down the road.  I do appreciate that my Newfs are independent thinkers with the confidence to communicate, but negotiation goes both ways.  This time, I convinced him to walk with us a little further, just a short distance, then we went back.  The Newfs explored their yard for a little while, then came in for a cookie and another good nap.

I do love sharing our place in the world with a good Newf who teaches me that listening is very important (a phrase that I often use with them).

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MY BIG BEAUTIFUL BUD PARKER

Parker and I have been best friends for a very long time now, in terms of Newfoundland years.  But even a very long time is not long enough.

He’s been my bud through many happy memories and some difficult ones.  We lost his dad together.  Brit, Parker and I spent that week at MU staying together in the van or in the waiting room.  Then he was my soft spot when I lost my dad, and later my mom.  He was there to comfort me when I lost my 42-year-old pony, a legend of his own in my family.  We were together when we said good-bye to Banker’s pal Roadway (a cat), to Shelby, and then to Brit, and to Spot (a cat story).

We’ve taken a lot of adventures together, side-by-side.  The separation anxiety began for him when we lost his dad.  He was very shaken up about it, to the point that he was trembling the following day.  After that, he didn’t want to let me out of his sight.  He would stay at home by himself, but everywhere else, we were pretty much a package deal.  He was with me, or I was with him.  He went with me to visit family, to the Nationals and to places where we could travel by van or Expedition.

On a door in my office, there is a long scratch in the wood finish where I learned not to play hide’n seek indoors, because he nearly panicked when he couldn’t find me.

So, now I’ve learned that his turn to depart is coming, and while I will have other Newfs to hug, and they are very important to me also, Parker won’t be the one I reach out for, the one I lean on, for the first time in a very long time.  We will get through this together, until the end is here.

For now, he is here, next to me, and when I look at him, he is as beautiful as ever, and his eyes are overflowing with that warm purity.  His humor is intact, his toys are still fun (he just pulled the Woody Woodpecker toy between his front legs in his usual comical way), and he looks rather handsome in his denim shirt.  He prefers lying near the fireplace now while the insert is running, but he still enjoys going out in the snow or cold weather for short times.  We will enjoy our minutes and days, for as many as we can share, and I will be especially thankful to have had the time to share with him.

I’ve realized yet one more thing about living with Newfs:

Separation anxiety goes both ways.

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OUR LOVELY BLACK GIRL IS NOW A BRONZE!

Posted 11/21/13

Our lovely black girl, Jade is now a Bronze!  (GCH Bronze level)

All prospective majors this spring were a bust, so it was close.  I thought it would be
nice if she finished this at the weekend of the HANC regional, but I thought we left with 99 GCh points.  Oh well, we had a good time.  Then I checked the AKC rankings and another point was there.  I had forgotten about that one!  I checked today, and she passed the 100 point mark!!  Yay!  (I fell like Banner does when she races across the house, spins, then uses the sofa as a landing pad.  I may just join her today!)

Previous show photo:

Jade, Town & Country KC, Oct 2010

Jade, Town & Country KC, Oct 2010

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BUSTIN’ OUT!

Posted 12/6/13 as “Bustin’ Out!”

It’s cold outside!  Did anyone else know?  It’s cold outside!  And there’s snow e-v-e-r-y-where!

I’ve been worrying about Parker getting older.  What birthday is it that’s coming up?  (I’m trying to forget for a little while longer, and today he made that a little easier.  He asked to go outside early, then he wanted to go out with Jade, who wanted to STAY out.  I thought he was beginning to have difficulty with temperature from getting a bath, but today, he was comfortable and happy outside in the snow at 16 F.

I went back inside and left the big dogs to enjoy the snow.  After a while, I went out to find Parker sitting and looking into the distance, with Jade lying in a regal pose near him.  I brought them in and let Banner have a turn.  She dances, spins, zips and takes off again.  Isn’t this marvelous stuff?

Then everyone had breakfast and took a morning nap.  Later they had lunch, and Jade began asking to go outside again.  One of the hydrants was frozen, the one where the bulls are, so Jade went out with me while I carried water to the bulls.  She was having such a good time!  I started kicking around an empty plastic water bottle for her, one that Banner was reusing before it went to the recycling center.  The bottle was nearly invisible in the snow.  We dallied a while longer as I brought the trash bin up from the road and she visited with the cat.  Parker heard us having fun and wanted to come outside too.  I kicked some snow up toward him, and he tried to catch it.  This is one of his favorite snow games.  He tries to catch as much as he can before it falls.

It’s been a very pleasant day.  With the bad weather coming, and some doubts about the accuracy of the snowfall prediction, I set up “camp” at the house so I could work at home.  Yesterday I made stew, good for lunch today and for lunches and dinners this weekend.  I put a jigsaw puzzle on the table and put the edge pieces together.  I had some hot chocolate, with mini-marshmallows.  And, yes, it was a workday, and I did that too.  ; )

This evening, I went to check the amount of hay in the cows’ feeders, and went to the mailbox.  Jade, of course, is outside at every opportunity.  We played more with the bottle, and I hesitated as I saw the puppy in her leaping up in the air on all four feet and coming toward me.  Oh boy!  When she was 60 lbs. that was impressive.  She sensed my hesitation and landed around me, dancing and playing more in the snow.  Parker again heard the fun and wanted to come outside.  Banner had to wait for her turn.  With a little too much enthusiasm in the air, I didn’t want to take a chance on her getting hurt.  After more play, I left to carry wood inside, to fill the carrier for the night.  Then I vacuumed the rugs and the firewood debris.  The big dogs had stayed outside, but Banner needed a turn.  I stepped out without gloves and threw one last snowball for each dog.  Brrr!  I’m sure there are places where you can’t do this without risking frostbite.  Parker came in and began playing with the Dragon, a green stuffed toy with a noisemaker that rumbles when you move the toy.  (This was a gift from a Newf friend.)  Jade came, somewhat reluctantly.  (She can’t understand why we don’t stay out longer.)  After Banner came back in, she decided that she needed the Dragon, so Parker picked up the Sing-along toy, the blue one that sings “Skinnama-rinky-dinky-dink, skinnama-rinky-do, I love you”.  Jade laid down and began cleaning the packed snow from her feet.

I’m somewhat of a cold-weather curmudgeon, but the happiness that these dogs feel turns a day of planned hibernation into a day of fun.  I find myself singing and whistling happy winter songs.  What!?  Then it hit me!  What a wonderful pleasant day it was!  How happy Parker was, and then I realized that it this more than a marvelous snow day, it was Happy Friday!

Happy Friday to all, and to all a good night!

Late Winter 2013

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